David

About David

My husband, David, has Stage IV Crpc with Mets . We were married in 2006, promptly moved to England for my job and career. In 2009, we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl. David stayed home with her while I went to work. We moved back to the states, and David was always there for his little girl. In 2014 – he started having really bad back pain, our daughter was 5 when he was admitted to the hospital for multiple pulmonary embolisms. Still had the awful pain – with no explanation. After fighting the insurance company, we got the diagnosis. Stage IV prostate cancer — and the pain in his back was due to bone metastasis. They wanted him admitted ASAP to start IV pain medication.
Our daughter had a baseball game – he refused to go to the hospital for pain management until AFTER her game. As he has gone through treatment after treatment (bicalutimide, Taxotere, Provenge, Xtandi, Taxotere, and Jevtana) – he has put her first.
We moved to North Carolina to be closer to family – and for our daughter to have her Uncle, my brother, in her life as a father figure as her own father steadily declines. David has been through all the available treatments – and is approaching the dreaded “hospice care” stage. He won’t let his daughter see him cry at night, or scream in frustration and pain when the insurance company denies any claim for pain relief.
I know this is supposed to be about how I, as his caregiver, support and care for him. I see what he does to support and care for his daughter– and decided seeing that kind of devotion would be a better story.
You see, since David has been a stay at home parent- he does not qualify for any state offered benefit. He does not qualify for disability or SSI or any support. The only support he gets is through my continued employment. Never mind the fact that his daughter can’t play in baseball now, because daddy is too ill to drive and mommy is working. Or that he can’t get out of bed to take her to school – and mommy has to be late to a meeting to make sure she is there on time. We work together to keep things as normal as possible for our daddy’s girl — because things will be VERY hard on her in the near future and she needs that normalcy – the knowledge that she has two loving parents – and will always have that — even if one of them won’t be around to see her into middle school…

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